Saturday, March 6, 2010

Dinner Didn't Show Up

This whole wife thing has been really fun, but sometimes I forget the basics. I feel bad because tonight I didn't even think about dinner for David. I ate a sandwich at 5, and David is now heating up his leftovers to eat for a "scrounge it up" dinner. He's not complaining, that's for sure, but I'm still left feeling like I didn't take care of him. I don't like that. To you long-time married people- do you ever feel like you just aren't doing a good job? It's nothing specific, really. I just have this fear of being a bad wife.

I want to be the best wife in the world. Part of being a newlywed is realizing you don't know anything, and that it's going to take a lifetime to learn a little bit of something. I think David and I both would say that we would like to know everything we need to know, but we are both discovering that part of marriage is learning, and learning creates some of the most memorable moments. Dinner may not be on the table tonight, but we're enjoying our time together!

A special note of encouragement to my dating and engaged friends:

I urge you to remain pure on your journey towards your greatest calling. Marriage IS worth the wait! Just because you love someone does not mean you belong to them or they belong to you. The covenant of marriage was designed for that-wait for your vows! May Christ ever be the center of your lives in every area.


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  2. It takes time to become one. It doesn't happen overnight...but in little bits, here and there. But then, all of a sudden, you realize that when you look at your spouse, you are looking at yourself. He is you. Almost every thing you do revolves around him. The way God intended it should be. The more you put his needs before yours, the better wife you will become.

    Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
    Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. ~Colossians 3:18-19

    The funny thing is, the more you submit to your husband...the more he will love you.

    Rachel, the perfect marriage does not exist...just like the perfect person does not is only by the grace of God that we wake up each morning and are able to move anything we do!!
    I love you, honey!! You're doing a great job!!

  3. Re-reading my previous comment...sounds like I think I have ALL the answers! Well, 22 and a half years of marriage and I am still learning! I hope I didn't come across "preachy"...I was just sharing what I have learned...and am still learning!

  4. Thanks for your comments Auntie! :) I am having a great time with the learning part! You didn't sound preachy to me. 22 years of marriage is a whole lot more experience than I have! Haha!

  5. Sweet sister-in-law ~ we all feel we are "falling short" at times. The most important thing to remember is that David doesn't love you & didn't marry you so you could cook for him. Great when you do, but that doesn't make you a great wife. Sometimes doing a quick "eat what you can find" meal is good so you have more time to spend together. It gets really crazy when you forget to plan dinner & there isn't just one mouth waiting, but five - yikes!!

    You are doing a great job - Love you!